Navigating Dating and Family Relations

  So, is it all about sex?   Nowadays our culture, our social media, our everything points us to sex. And not in a respectful manner. It’s all about pleasure. About getting the most from your partner. Some even claim if the person the like isn’t good in bed they leave, that become a deal breaker for them. It’s all about what you get and not what you’re giving. Do you think that’s how it was meant to be designed? Is sex all about ourselves> Should we even care about how the other person feels? I think we should definitely take into consideration our partners. I believe the act of sex is supposed to bring two people, two eternally committed people together. I think it should be an act of love and not one of pleasure. I think we should care about the other person and care for what they like and need. I think we should know them enough to know what fears they have or what pace they want to move at. If we don’t take these precautions, it’s possible to open your hearts up for h...

  This week I pondered a lot about adjustments. When looking at adjustments an average person will go through in their life, it’s surprising we’re not accustomed to change. I think most people would agree that change is unwelcome in most cases. Or sometimes they want the change but still feel negative effects of the adjustment. What types of adjustments do we go through in our life? When growing up, new school, new friends. Later in life, it’s about adjusting to taking care of ourselves, rent, bills, work, and time management. Dating is another large adjustment. How to date, who to date, when to date, and eventually when to marry. These adjustments aren’t always bad changes, most of them are good, and teach us important skills. However, it can be hard to still feel those positive effects when we are stressed. A large adjustment is seriously dating someone, getting engaged to them, and then marrying them. To those of you who are married, what were some adjustments that were hard f...

 Marriage. A simple word to say but a hard concept to grasp. It’s a big decision, one that changes and shapes the direction of your life. If you get married too soon or to the wrong person, it can create an unhealthy relationship. So, how do marry the “right” person, is there even such a thing? I want to hear your thoughts! I read some interesting articles this week as well as had some interesting discussions about this subject. To understand the trends of marriage you first have to understand the current trends of dating. What is dating like for you? Dating nowadays has turned into something called hanging out. Even when I was dating in my younger years, boys would ask me to hang out and then treat it like a date or ask to go on a date but then it would be something really casual. Is dating the same as going steady? Or is there a difference? According to the discussions and articles I read, dating is super important to preparing for marriage. Dating rituals such as planning, mon...

  This week I want to talk about a controversial subject. Now please don’t stop reading and turn away and please don’t automatically have anger in your heart. I promise to handle this subject with as much love and understanding in my heart as I know how. And as always, I want to remind any readers that this is an open dialogue, please always feel free to comment and start a friendly conversation with me. :) So, let’s dive right on in. This week we talked about gender roles and the possible natural differences between the sexes. I want to first start off by saying I do not discriminate against anyone in the LGBTQ+ community, I have many loved ones apart of this community. I understand that everything I talk about is not applicable to everyone. Continuing, science is starting to show that just behaviorally, before any environmental factors, babies and young children will act differently. They seek attention differently, react to situations differently, choose different toys, and pl...